MurseBryan
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| 10/02/2008 8:41 AM |
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So, I have been trying to figure out the best way to get out there and meet new people when I'm stuck working as a night shift ZOMBIE... Any tips on the best way to deal with this issue... It'd be nice to meet someone but I also wonder when I would even have time when I'm basically living on opposite hours as the rest of the world... 
Anyway, I hope you all are having better luck than me... |
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BillyK1
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| 10/03/2008 12:06 PM |
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| I hear ya!! Hard to meet people when you can only see once or twice a week. Even in a big city like chicago i'm having a hard time. Good luck to you too!! |
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LouLouRN
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| 10/03/2008 1:41 PM |
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I use to work 12N for 2 years and I hear you-- it does make it more difficult to meet people. I met my now husband through a friend who invited me to hang out with a few of her friends for "brunch".... I went right after work. I was borderline delirious, but I guess I made a good enough impression. He was working as a volunteer fire fighter at that time so our schedule was really hard to accomodate.
Try to get your shifts together so that you can at least take advantage of a 2-3 days of "day light" activities! This is assuming you are working 12's? |
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ahmrn
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| 10/08/2008 12:12 PM |
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| I hear ya...it sucks! I have been dating a guy, or attempting, who has a 8-5 job M-F and its been pretty up and down because I work 12N. We are trying to make it work but I can tell that he is just really frustrated with my schedule and weekends! Anyone have any suggestions how to make this easier?!?!?! |
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lpnseeking
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| 10/08/2008 10:49 PM |
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| the night shift is not too bad..i still manage to get out there and meet new people. if you have a weekend off for example and you finish workin that friday morning at 7 am..u sleep all day and at about 3-4 inthe afternoon, you start preparin your self for a night on the town..u just gotta know how to work it girl... |
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RNCHRWIFE
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| 10/15/2008 2:32 PM |
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I worked the night shift for 8 years straight. Missed out on a lot of family activities, as the shifts I worked were 12 hours and I drove for an hour one way to my job. I did meet my spouse through a co-worker, we saw each other once a week and made lots of phone calls and emails. We lived 90 miles apart. We managed to make things work and have been happily married for the past 4 plus years.  We really had to be creative for our time together. I now only work the night shift on my week-ends and when the other night nurses take time off. There are ways to have relationships when working nights. You just have to be creative and really want things to work. |
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scheeksrn
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| 10/23/2008 9:46 PM |
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| I have also worked nights for 8+years... the last 9 mons I have switched to day shift so I can be a active part of my family. There was pay cut.. my sleeping habits are still not to be desired. But I am around the family and get to tuck in the kids for bed. |
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esboston
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| 12/09/2008 9:43 AM |
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| You're not alone! You may want to look into online dating services - a few of our NurseTogether.com relationship experts have used them successfully. It's a great way to find matches regarding the important things in your life without wasting time, particularly when you work non-traditional shifts. There are a number of articles on this site that can give some guidance. I would suggest using the search tool (top right hand corner of our site) and search on "online dating" and you should have a number of hits. Additionally, check out all articles by resident dating expert David Wygant (search on "wygant" and you'll see all his articles). Hope that helps! |
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fotogrllt
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| 02/20/2010 3:17 PM |
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| I work nights processing mail at the postal service for over 20 years (the few day processing jobs available were for people with 25 years or more in). Now I am a nursing student & will probably be faced with working nights once again when I go back to work. Once I started working nights, the friends & activities I was had been participating in, i.e. clubs, hobbies, and church, slowly fell to the way side because of my hours. I ended up doing postal activities with my co workers. During my night career, I made very few friends outside of the post office because of my sleeping schedule cutting into weekend day activities where I could meet new people. My 15 year marriage & several serious relationships failed because the men did not understand that I was unable to get on days so I could be with them at night & so they left. Now that I am student "on days" life is once again normal. What I would suggest is to keep trying for days or if you can't get on days, become good friends with your night coworkers. Unless you are willing to sacrifice your precious sleep or use up your vacation time to go out in the evening to meet people at wine tastings, singles groups, Sunday church gatherings, or some other specialized group. |
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fotogrllt
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| 02/20/2010 3:21 PM |
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| It will not get easier unless you get on days.
My marriage & several serious relationships failed because I could not get on days (I am ex 20 year night postal worker) & be home at night with those men. Find a night guy. |
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Marionlpn
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| 02/24/2010 7:41 PM |
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Working the late shift is always a challenge. I've worked nights for about 15 yrs and the last year and a half 12hrs nights. I spent alot of time on the computer on online dating and social sites. It took some time but I finally found and met a nice guy who was ok with my schedule. It does help if you have more than one day off in a row |
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Greg
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| 07/19/2010 8:04 PM |
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| We nocturnals as my niece calls me, have a bumpy road to travel. The non-nocturnals never seem to understand the balance we have to strike. I have been on straight nights for over 3 years and the only way yo make it better that I have found is to sit down and have a conversation about how we function as night people.....The ups and downs never seem to go away, but they can get easier to deal with! |
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