shovelhead
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| 06/06/2008 4:52 PM |
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| How many here talk to their s/o's after a long shift to help decompress. I have found that, apparently, I am to graphic in descriptions of work, and so, my better half does not want to hear about work at all. What are some decompression techniques that others use, so that they don't have to "burden" their spouses? |
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universalRN
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| 06/08/2008 12:03 AM |
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| Actually, great point. It is hard aftre a long shift to decompress. We are in a unique profession where its hard to describe day to day! We try and find common things we like such as movies and going for nice walks when we can to help with me winding down. But for the most part, going for a quick drink or bite with fellow nurses let the discussion open and helps wind me down. |
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Melissa
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| 06/08/2008 8:39 PM |
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| Mr, shovelheadwolf. that is a question I am dying to get an answer to! I love my boyfriend and pretty sure he feels the same, but when it comes to what I do, he has little to no interest. As a couple we should be able to share things that are important to us and my work is very important to me. I feel that not being able to share my passion (and of course those days from hell) with him puts a strain on our relationship. I find myself enjoying conversation with other nurses of the opposite sex a little too much. |
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kauainurse
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| 06/11/2008 12:51 AM |
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| my s/o is like a brick wall when i tell him about my day. There is no reciprocating dialog or genuine interest. Is that a bad sign that we should call things off? |
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Melissa
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| 06/11/2008 1:39 AM |
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| Calling things off would depend on a lot more than difference of employment interest. As long as your s/o understands this is your passion and you want to share it with them, I think you are okay, but if your s/o doesn't care to share your interest there may be more to the situation. Maybe a little one sided? |
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shovelhead
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| 06/11/2008 2:03 PM |
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| Melissa, call me Blair. I feel much the same way. I used to be able to decompress by going for a bite to eat when I was doing nights, or a decaf or a beer when I am working days. This is now precluded by a somewhat jealous g/f that wants to know who I am with, where I am going and when will I be home. If I tell her that I am going out for drinks with "the girls", the foecal matter has been known to hit the occilating blades. P'raps if I wasn't so damned good looking and liked to flirt... *laughing* |
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Jen at NT
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| 06/11/2008 2:40 PM |
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| Hey Shovelheadwolf, I think you just won the first nursetogether.com T-shirt contest for being funny!!!!! One thing though, you must take a picture with it on the harley!!!!!!! Send me a private message so I can get a mailing address to mail it to you! |
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Kat_traveller
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| 06/12/2008 5:13 AM |
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| I, myself, realize more and more of just how VERY FORTUNATE I am that I have a husband who truly wants to know how each and every one of my shifts went. Not only do I receive the at-home support, but I'm alos told on a nightly basis- "If you just need to say a HELLO to me in order to re-group your shift-by all means call me at any time." WOW! I AM VERY FORTUNATE! |
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universalRN
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| 06/12/2008 7:47 PM |
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| Thats great! You are extremely lucky.. |
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Melissa
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| 06/13/2008 3:38 AM |
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| Kat, you are not only fortunate and extremely lucky, you are an endangered species!!! Hang on to what you have because trust me, pickin's are slim if it is to be a true, two sidded relationship. I would die to have my s/o appreciate me and value my feelings. You are a picture of envy and that my Dear Friend is a SIN! |
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ailaspeaks
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| 06/14/2008 11:24 AM |
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This is a fabulous topic! Here are a couple of ideas....
**Journaling ~ Put a journal in the car and take a few minutes to write out your thoughts and feelings. This does at least two things, takes the edge off and helps you to crystallize what is most important to you about the day. Sharing your true feelings and reflections with a partner would enhance the depth and intimacy of your relationship with yourself and your partner. Sharing just the gory details is likely to stimulate distancing.
**Create a decompression room on site ~ A place where nurses can go after shift or on breaks. The space could include a variety of ways to unwind, talk with peers, provide a book for jokes & humor, line the walls with paper and do graffiti on it…..
** I'd love to hear what you think of these ideas and your own creative ideas. Might work this up into an aricle for the site~
Namaste,
Aila
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Jen at NT
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| 06/14/2008 11:51 AM |
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Hey, what about creating a "decompression" room here in the forum? Who better to understand than your peers? I'll make this a request to our webmaster... Stay tune. |
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shovelhead
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| 06/16/2008 12:44 PM |
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We have a pretty comfortable nurses lounge at the U of A Hospital. We tend to break there the most as it's close and there are our colleagues that understand what we just went through. After shift, it is very common to visit with the oncoming staff, share the tales of woe and laughter from the previous shift. I always seem to find myself walking out to the bike about a quarter to the next hour, having dawdled for the previous half our or so. I also tend to blow off a little steam on the ride home. Depending on the shift, I have been known to add an extra couple of hours to the usual 20 minute commute home. Going for coffee in a town an hour or so outside of Edmonton helps to put things in perspective.
I also like the idea of the "Decompression Room" here. Sticky problems that we may not want to advertise to work colleagues may find an outlet here, in a safe, non-judgemental, supportive environment. |
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shovelhead
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| 06/16/2008 12:49 PM |
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| Oh, and how does one PM here, can't seem to find it. Hope you have at least an XXL t-shirt. It has to fit 6'5" and 280 lbs. |
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Advisor
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| 06/16/2008 2:50 PM |
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If we missed anything, please let me know.
And about private messaging.. we will launch it back up again by the end of this week- we had to modify a couple functionality to preserve privacy for everyone. Pardon the delay.
Blair, if you can send an email to info@nursetogether.com with your actual email address... our marketing team wants to send you a T-shirt that you must wear with the bike! I think I am letting the cat out of the bag, but there is news about a "Where are you" T-shirt promotion. I won't steal our membership/marketing thunder, but it should be fun--- a contest featuring all the countries of all of our members. (Over 60 countries and growing are represented in our membership)
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Advisor
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| 06/16/2008 2:51 PM |
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Forgot to add the following to my original post:
Ask and you shall receive, we will add a few "rooms" in the forum including the following:
1. "Decompression Room"- a room ("non-judgemental, supportive outlet) to decompress after a grueling, taxing, challenging shift
2. Bulletin Board with the following folders:
1. Announcements: well.. announcements from NT about the site..everything we are working on and new featues that will be unveiled!
2. Share your views: Share your opinion, post suggestions, etc..
3. Nurse Market Place- having anything to sell? give-a-way? share.. post it for free here.
3. A place just for the great men at work-- "Men in Nursing" -this will be under the CAREER TAB.
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shovelhead
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| 06/17/2008 2:54 PM |
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Ah yes, definitely in need of the "Male Nurse" differentiation...
Email sent. |
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Melissa
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| 06/18/2008 9:54 AM |
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Come on Mr. Shovelhead, you know you like gabbing with us ladies!? Just kidding! Seriously though, you are going to have to recruit Male Nurses to chat with. Not that we don't like chatting it up with you, but I'd like to hear more from the opposite sex in relation to our profession. It is obvious to me that we view things differently and I was just wondering if it a male personna or yours? Still like chatting with you, sometimes it is fun to diagree yet be open to someone else's view,huh?
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scheeksrn
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| 10/28/2008 11:23 PM |
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| I just have to debrief myself a bit tonight. Today I cared for a 16 y/o whom was a Trauma who was car surfing and shattered his pelvis, broke a femur and road rash all over. Come to find out he is under probation for being a sexual offender. Oh my god,... I was so NOT therapeutic today... I have to work tomorrow... and I am dreading having to be his nurse again, but I do not want to subject anyone else to him. I even found out his g-mother (whom has temp custody of him) lives a block away from my family and I. Oh.... I am just creeped out by him, he is definitely not the run of a mill typical 16 y/o. |
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raliugala
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| 10/30/2008 8:39 AM |
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Good luck to you on that patient.
Regarding the decompression techniques, I find that I can't really go to my significant other. I mean he is very understanding and he actually does listen, but I feel that he doesn't understand the extent as to why I am so stressed out by work. I often go to my nursing school friends or my mother (who has been a nurse for almost 20 years) to vent. I feel that helps me calm down a bit. I think that the social support is essential to help deal with the daily stresses of our profession. |
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