There are lots of different thoughts on whether it’s a good or bad idea to date a coworker. It can be a tricky situation to navigate, especially in the medical field where there are all sorts of connotations, expectations, and issues that could arise. If you’re thinking about dating a coworker, especially as a nurse, here are some thoughts to consider.
Dating a coworker can come with a slew of benefits, and sometimes it’s actually a good idea. Here are a few of the “pros” we’ve discovered for dating a coworker.
- You already know each other. If you’ve been coworkers for a while, you are already familiar with how that person operates. This means that you can skip over the awkward “getting to know you” phase of the first few dates. Instead of small talk or feeling each other out for political beliefs, hobbies, and the like, you can get right into things you haven’t discussed at work before. You also know that you’re probably already a pretty good match, especially if you’ve been working together for a while.
- Easier relationship building. Nurses have pretty much no free time. When they aren’t working, they’re recovering from work or getting ready for work. Building new relationships can be really tricky when there’s hardly any time to spare. If you work together you can get to know each other more in those moments in the office together, or during lunch. Since you’re in the same place, there’s less travel coordination to figure out and you can make the most of your time together.
- It can be exciting. Work relationships are generally frowned upon – which makes it that much more exciting! The added thrill of secrecy can provide a lot of fuel for a new relationship. Don’t forget, though, that you’ll have to tell people eventually, especially if it gets more serious.
However, to every benefit there is a downside. Here are some of the most common reasons why dating a coworker could be a bad idea.
- There’s such a thing as too much time together. Spending lunchtime together can be fun, but you may find yourself missing a bit of personal space. If the relationship has progressed and you two are living together, you’ll get virtually no time away from each other. You might find yourself feeling suffocated, which could very quickly lead to a broken relationship.
- The dreaded breakup. Not every relationship works out “until death do us part.” Most of them end with a breakup. If you’re thinking about dating a coworker, you need to consider how things will be if the relationship ends. Will you two be able to be civil at work? Will it be awkward? How will it affect your coworkers? No one wants to think about a breakup when you first start dating someone new, but it’s a good idea to think about how you’ll approach it if you still have to work together.
- Work becomes personal. While you and your coworker may be a great fit personally, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are on the same page professionally. When there are work disputes, this could bleed over to the relationship. If you disagree with a coworker on something, you might be offended if your new boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t side with you on the issue. It’s difficult to not let work issues affect your personal relationship if you work together.